I wish I could say this is a joke but it’s not. Instagram made me crazy. About a month ago I decided to take the plunge and start my blog about my parenting journey and some hopefully helpful tips for other mums that I had. But about a week ago, I became obsessed. Obsessed with how many views my blog had, obsessed with how many new followers I had on Instagram. Obsessed.
I thought to myself, my blogs never going to get out there if I don’t have followers. So I asked around a bit and kept getting the same answer. Be authentic, know what your page is about and like comment, and interact with people in my ‘niche’ whatever the fuck niche means. Just kidding, I know. Had to Google it though. And of course, I needed to utilize the hashtags.
Next, I downloaded the app followers+ this was my biggest mistake and the start of crazy Stacey. I became obsessed with looking at who unfollowed me. During this week my instagram following doubled and one of my fav mum bloggers started following me. I was stoked. She’s from New Zealand and she’s hilarious. Anyway fast forward a few days after this obsession took hold of my life and said mum blogger unfollowed me. My heart literally sank, and I’m thinking what did I do? Why didn’t she like me. It was literally like I was in high school again feeling inadequate about who I was. And I didn’t like it. It was about 30 seconds later that I decided to delete the stupid app and write a quick post to get it all off my chest.
The advice I got from the other bloggers was good, and I’ll take some of it on board but I guess if even one person reading this is just starting out blogging or starting themselves up on a social media channel I would say be authentic, be you and don’t do it for the followers because if you’re doing it for the followers you’re doing it for the wrong reasons.
For a week I was so obsessed with instagram I couldn’t sleep. I was glued to my phone. My partner had to literally bribe me with a massage if I could go without my phone for one hour. And my poor son has definitely not been getting the attention he deserves. For a week, I forgot why I started this. It was to connect with other mums, it was maybe just have a bit of a LOL. It was to write. But it wasn’t for followers.
I did not start this for followers, and I’m going to stop doing this for followers, I want the people that are following me to want to follow me. I’m going to start doing this for myself, and that one person it might help.
Thanks for reading ✌️ xx